Question #19: I am newly married and my wife has virtually no idea how her body works or what she enjoys sexually because she has no experience. I am frustrated because I try different things but she does not enjoy them and she does not have any suggestions for what I should be doing. Is it okay for her to explore her body to find out what she likes so that she can teach me?
This set of posts comes from Pastor Mark Driscoll and his wife Grace. The sermon series The Peasant Princess brought up dozens of questions that they felt they should respond to. The result is this blog series: Christian Sex: Frank Answers to Honest Questions.
Answer: Yes, but you should make sure your spouse is in agreement with this. Pray through your frustration so you are responding with compassion and patience toward her. You should likely be present as she experiments with her body so that you can learn from observing how she touches herself. You should also discover your own body and teach her what you like too. Also, reading through Douglas E. Rosenau’s A Celebration of Sex together can be educating and helpful for both of you as you work toward a long-term, satisfying life of intimacy.
